You can lead a horse {or your mother} to water…

We seem to be getting back in the saddle related to “normal” daily living.  After her hip fracture four weeks ago, Mom had surgery, rehab, returned home, and is living almost independently again.  She can’t drive yet, but that restriction is self-imposed.  Her orthopedist gave her the go-ahead, but she’s holding off until she gains more strength and confidence in her mobility.  She’s using a walker, but plans to advance to a cane and then hopefully to using nothing – at least around the house.

The natural progression for someone her age with a diagnosis of a broken hip is to receive home care.  But she never required this service for two reasons:

1.  Her recovery was miraculous.

2.  She lives with a home care therapist.  It’s one of the few times I’ve been able to practice my craft without a prescription from a Doctor.

I had a field day of sorts the day I brought my list of the assistive devices I thought she could use to the Durable Medical Supply store.  I said: “I need this, this, this, this, and that”…pointing to the shower chair, walker tray, reacher, etc.  And, before we moved in last year, we had her bathroom remodeled with the idea of making it accessible for a future disability.  So, she has a walk-in shower, 2 grab bars, and a hand-held shower.  We were ahead of the game.

When she feels ready to try driving again, I’ll take her to our school campus to practice, and then maybe we’ll get an ice-cream to reward ourselves for our bravery and anticipated success.   She risked her life teaching her five kids how to drive many moons ago, so it’s pay-back time.

I’ve made many recommendations to patients for equipment that I believe will make their lives easier, safer, and more functional.  Some order these things and some don’t.  I can lead a horse to water, but if they don’t drink, I can at least say I tried.  With mom, she agreed to everything I recommended.   She is a model patient – and MOTHER!


She wanted to get her paper today…for the first time in a month. So off we went into the cold. We took a walk around the cul-de-sac for some extra exercise.

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10 Responses to You can lead a horse {or your mother} to water…

  1. mafarckle says:

    This is wonderful Diane.  You are also a model daughter.  Love, Patti

  2. Tara Carlson says:

    My mother-in-law lives with us… she too broke her hip. It happened last November on her 96th birthday! Her recuperation has been a bit of an ordeal and a learning experience for all of us. From our experience I would like to add to your list of recommended equipment a raised toilet seat with handles and a commode placed strategically near the bed 🙂
    Sending positive, healing thoughts to you and your mother.


    • Diane Fiore says:

      Tara, Sorry to hear about your M-I-L, but it sounds like she’s in very good hands. Thanks for the sound advice. The right equipment and environmental changes can make all the difference in the world. Sending healing energy back to your M-I-L and positive thoughts to you and your family.

  3. Glynny says:

    Your Mom looks GREAT in the photo. It is obvious that she has a good therapist. Just look at the posture and demeanor! Love the jeans and the happy red coat! Congrats to both of you.
    Love you, girl.

  4. maria wulf says:

    Great to see Diane. It must be so satisfying for you too.

  5. Ann says:

    What an amazing woman your Mom is! And you are too Diane!

  6. Diane Fiore says:

    You’re too kind, Ann. Always love your visits.

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