Risky Business

My vacation started last Friday morning.  I’m a planner.  All of my plans focused on getting ready for my annual trip to Florida to visit my in-laws.  I was going to leave on Monday and meet Brian who was already there playing golf with his friends.

But first, I told Mom I’d make breakfast for us Friday morning to kick off my vacation in a leisurely way.  It was 7:30am.  I made a pot of coffee for her.  I went to get her and found her lying on the sofa.  She looked up at me and said “I fell.”  I didn’t panic.  She didn’t really look distressed.  She told me that she got up from the floor and walked gingerly into her bedroom to get the cane that she only uses if she has a flare up of her Rheumatoid Arthritis.

Long story made short, she broke her hip.  My trip was no longer the focus.  Getting Mom the medical attention she needed was.  The next four days were filled with uncertainty.

-The first day, waiting patiently for the diagnosis and then deciding on where to have the surgery.

-The second day waiting patiently for the surgery which didn’t happen until 4:30 in the afternoon.  By this time, Mom was in much pain, and drugged on Morphine.

-The third day, watching her closely for signs of recovery in the form of actually getting up and walking ~ with a lot of help and a walker.

-The fourth day, waiting patiently for the plan for discharge to our “first choice” facility for rehab.

Last night, on the sixth day after she broke her hip, she walked about 200 feet with a walker with little to no pain, and no help from me.  It’s nothing short of a miracle.  The break she sustained was not displaced, so they were able to do the simplest surgery with no subsequent restrictions.


Living is risky business.  Anything can happen at anytime to change the course of life.  We can’t get through many of life’s events without the help of others.  Mom has had the help and support from my brothers and our own sparkly Debbie, who is a girlfriend of one of my brothers who brings light and joy wherever she goes.  Family and friends near and far have offered kind words and the promise of help.  The medical staff throughout all levels of care have been professional and knowledgeable, and although these situations are routine to them, they have a sense of the physical and emotional trauma that patients experience and are sensitive to this.

Although I had to cancel my trip to Florida and feel a deep sense of loss for not being able to spend some nice time with my in-laws, I’m so very grateful that I was here when this happened.  And instead of sifting through beach sand this week, I plan to cross-country ski in the wonderful foot of snow we got yesterday.

~~And who knows, maybe another snow creature will come to life~~

Snow Creature 1

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9 Responses to Risky Business

  1. Brian says:

    Good morning my dear wife,
    Waiting for Jay to call me to say it’s a good time to head down to visit. Mom brought up your blog and of course I had to read it. Your Mom looks great in the picture and I know she will recover quickly because she is a strong women, both in mind and spirit and I know she won’t let this keep her down.
    I, in many ways, feel bad to still be down here while you’re dealing with all this plus the snow by yourself, but as we discussed, coming back didn’t make a lot of sense but I still feel like I should be there. I also know that this is my one time each year to spend with my family, but it truly is not the same without you being here with me. The weather of course helps me as well, as you know how much I love the warmth and sunshine.
    Anyway, I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking about you and your mom and missing you both, and of course the puppies too. Talk to you later on. I really do LOVE and MISS you.
    Your lightly tanned husband,

  2. mafarckle says:

    Diane, I am sorry that your mom fell, but glad that she is doing so well, so quickly.  I believe that it was God’s love, that you were there and able to give her the care she needed right away.  Love, Patti

  3. Glynny says:

    Sorry to hear about your Mom’s mishap, dear, sweet, Diane. She looks beautiful in the photo and I know that all of you ” kids” are a true blessing to her.
    I know you will be happy to have Brian back home again.
    Love you,

    • Diane Fiore says:

      Yes, Glynny, I will be so glad to have Brian and my mother home. She is scheduled for discharge this week. Her recovery has been quite amazing! Thank you as always for your sweet words, dear Glynny. Love you too!

  4. bittygirl51 says:

    What a loving and unselfish daughter you are. It should seem natural and not deserve praise for what you’ve done by sacrificing your trip/visit with in-laws etc; but in today’s world going the extra mile for our loves ones is becoming more rare than words can say. It would have been easy for you to become grumpy, disgruntled, negative and downright

  5. bittygirl51 says:

    …bitter, but you “honored” your mother as the scripture commands us to do. You looked at the “could have been” and were thankful for what DIDN’T happen. God Bless you!

    • Diane Fiore says:

      Linda, You have been a role model for unselfish living by caring for your mother-in-law. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing some of your very meaningful life events with us. Best to you and your family. Diane

  6. Ann says:

    Well Diane,you never cease to amaze me with your calm,steadfast,focused love and energy. It was so fortunate that you were home when this happened. I wish I could be more like you in my caretaker role for my parents. Your Mom looks so wonderful. Wow. She is amazing,too. Glad she has recovered quickly. Your snowasaurous is ingenious and cute! I’m sure your Mom will be tickled! Enjoy your skiing.

    • Diane Fiore says:

      Ann, I know you look over your parents with love, grace, style, and an unmatched understanding. I always enjoy your kind words, and I love that you were able to name the species: Snowasaurous!

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