Travels with Dad
—-This is a story of a complex relationship with my father, Al, who I came to love and understand after he was diagnosed with dementia.—-
It was probably better that none of us knew what was going to happen to my father, but if I did know, and had an opportunity to tell him, this is what I may have said to him in a letter in the 1980’s.
I know this is going to seem like a shock to you….it is to all of us. But in a few years, you will begin to morph into a different person. Well, not really a different person. Actually, the more authentic YOU will emerge. I can’t be more specific than that at this moment, but this is what I do know:
*You will worry less
*Like everyone you meet
*Like people you never liked before
*Be surprised about things, like a kid
I hate to tell you this, but many things that aren’t so nice will also happen:
* You will get lost
*Forget how to drive
*Your language will diminish; you will only be able to retrieve and speak a few words
*You will need assistance with bathing, dressing, meals, etc.
*You will look bewildered
*You will no longer be in charge of your own life
Please know that we, your family, will laugh with and at you, but never in a disrespectful way. We will watch you closely, and to the best of our abilities, ensure your well-being.
Hang on! We’re all in for an interesting ride!